I’m so hungry!

I’d like you to meet our son, Stefan. He has some great thoughts about fasting and I’d like to share them with you. Let us know what you think!


When I am extremely busy, I can go an entire day without eating, and I won’t even realize it. I won’t have hunger pains. I won’t get cravings. I won’t even realize that I haven’t drank anything. And, I can do that a lot! I know, I know- that isn’t healthy. But, when I have so much happening during the day, I forget about caring for my body and don’t even miss eating. It isn’t until it is the end of the day, late at night, when I start to get a headache. It’s a pounding, obnoxious headache, and my stomach feels like it has a knife piercing directly through it. I’m slightly dense sometimes; so, I don’t always realize that it is extreme hunger pains (“extreme” as if I have gone days without eating). By the time I stop to think, “Oh, I haven’t eaten today”, it is late at night, and I’m on the verge of death. So, I just quickly shove chips or bread or popcorn down my throat (something that’ll relieve the hunger pains and give a filling sensation to my stomach). Of course, that works in the moment, but I always wake up starving!

I wasn’t going to admit this, but there have been times where I have sleep-eaten. Yes… It is true. My body is desperate for something; so, I wander out in the night and find something to consume. This could be dangerous because I’m an all-natural eater, and I’m not sure if my body knows that… So, I could have eaten cheese puffs without realizing. Anyways, I have gotten better about making time in the day to eat actual meals. What’s the purpose of eating all-natural if I’m starving my body?

Okay; my point in all of this is that I can’t help but draw a connection between my body and our spiritual lives. Allow me to explain:

We can get extremely busy in our day-to-day lives. We work, go to school, have families, friends, commitments, ministries, sports, foundations, outreaches, and, of course, we “need” our tv time, social media, video games, cell phones, and apps to unwind and relax. During all of this, we forget to eat (spiritually speaking), and we don’t even realize it. We won’t have hunger pains. We won’t get cravings. We won’t even realize that we haven’t spoken to God or spent time in His presence in weeks!

It isn’t until it is late at night (a bad point in our lives) that the intense headaches start- that’s the anxiety, worry, depression, sorrow, insecurity, loneliness, restlessness, etc. We get the sharp pains in our gut. And, we realize, in this nighttime, these bad seasons of life, that we haven’t eaten. This is when two things can happen:

We begin to find the quickest snack to shove down our throats in order to resolve the hunger pains and get a filing sensation (i.e. a worship night, an inspirational scripture, an uplifting word or prophesy from someone). AND/OR we begin to search in the night for something. Our spiritual bodies are desperate to be filled, so we sleep-eat. And, since it isn’t accustomed to us eating, our spirits may not know we are all-natural eaters (consumers of God’s Word)… So, we may have eaten of the world’s pantry and not even realized it (those pesky cheese puffs).

And, here were are- somewhat starved, malnourished, and filled with cheese puffs. It’s not exactly the best place to be in life. How do we get out of this place? Easy. Make time.

It always happens when I am fasting that I realize my hunger pains. Of course I never feel them when I’m not fasting, but then again, I am always busy with work or friends or entertainment. But, when I’m fasting and separate myself from my everyday life, I realize that it is 2 pm, and I haven’t eaten. I’m hungry! Clearing my schedule, letting go of certain things, making time brings the realization that I haven’t eaten and my body is hungry.

The same goes for our spiritual lives When we clear out the unnecessary and even the necessary things from our lives, when we make time and separate ourselves from the normal, day-to-day routine, we get those hunger pains. We get the cravings for more of God and for more of His presence. We’re reminded that we need to eat and that our spiritual bodies have a hunger for the Bread of Life.

So, just as I have made time to eat actual meals during the day, I have started being intentional in spending time in the Word, drinking from the Well, and eating the food that is most important. And, the more I do that, the more I realize how hungry I actually am for God. Good thing it’s an all-you-can-eat buffet (cheese puffs not included).

…man does not live on bread alone but on every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord.” Deuteronomy 8:3 

Stefan

yeah – he’s got a thing for chocolate too 😉

Have You Tried Reading the Directions?

I’d like you to meet my forever friend, Jennifer. I don’t remember when I didn’t know this girl. We’ve been through just about everything together. And the stories we could tell…..like the time she got a round brush stuck in her bangs during Sunday School and I took her to the kitchen and filled the brush and her hair with peanut butter to help get it out. Or the time I cut her hair. Or the time she set her back yard on fire when we were camping. Or when it appeared her hair was on fire at my wedding. (lots of hair and fire stories here) Or the time we got stuck in a tree in a field with an angry bull. Or the time she saved my life in the girl’s bathroom in high school. Or when we sneaked off campus for lunch and she left me hiding in the floorboard of her car for Coach Cleveland find. (I learned what aiding and abetting was that day) Or going to college together (with our other forever friend, Melissa).

This picture pretty much sums up our relationship.

Kim & Jennifer

I’m sure you’re going to love her thoughts!

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Is there anything more nerve-wracking than driving in Atlanta?  Well, yes actually.  Driving through Atlanta with a load of 17-year-olds in tow.

A couple of years ago, I was driving my daughter and several friends up to north Georgia to go whitewater rafting.  As we were zooming down the 285 “speedway”, I had a blow-out.  I managed to get my old grey Suburban full of teenagers to the shoulder (such as it was).  The next couple of minutes were alarm bells and sweat for me.  I was a nervous wreck inside.  The kids all piled out as to not sit in a hot car on the side of the Interstate.  The “shoulder” was a very narrow left-side concrete strip, which left me in a sheer panic of the thought of one of my passengers getting hit by any of the literally thousands of vehicles whizzing by in the six lanes next to us. When an 18-wheeeler would blow by, our bodies were literally swayed by the hot wind that rushed behind them.  I was sure that distracted drivers were manning the wheel on most of these cars, and well, let’s be honest: we ourselves were a distraction– a bunch of kids on the side of the road with a crazy-looking, sweating, woman and a broken-down truck.

In my group were some young men, one of whom was an Eagle Scout, and they set out to look under the back of the Suburban to start getting the spare out. They weren’t having any luck though.  My spare was not dropping down like it was supposed to.  They worked and sweated and then started over again…but no luck.  The rest of the kids in the group grew restless and so did I.

A couple of policemen pulled up. They were extremely nice and friendly but they could not figure out the tire either. We politely discussed what my next move might be (a tow-truck) while the two boys continued to fiddle around under the truck.  We had been at this for about 30 minutes now, and I knew it was probably time to throw in the towel and move to Plan B.

At this point, my daughter emerged from the side of the Suburban and it occurred to me that I hadn’t seen her since we had first pulled over.

She said simply, “Can I try it?”

I said, “Well, sure…but the guys have been working on it and they haven’t figured it out yet.”  That was code for, “Don’t bother.”

Then she said, “Well, I’ve been reading the Owner’s Manual.  Maybe that will help.”

That was one of those parent-moments. You know…when you just stand there like a dork and marvel at this kid of yours and their superior reasoning skills, and wonder when that transformation happened without you noticing.

You can guess what happened next.  It wasn’t too long before we were, in the words of Willie Nelson, “On the Road Again.”

That was a scary situation, but like most crucial moments in life, we laughed about it later.  As time passed, I found some symbolism in the chaos.

2 Timothy 3:15-17 (NIV) says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

How many times are we faced with a scary situation in life?  Something that we haven’t faced before… Something that seems to be without a solution…something that is entrenched in treacherous circumstances.  We stand there, and stare at it, and try to figure out how to fix it.  But it won’t fix.  We try again.  Still, nothing.  We fiddle with it, tinker with it, try looking at it upside-down…nothing.

At some point, hopefully, we turn to our “Instruction Manual”, God’s Word, and look for instructions on how to address our problem. But how much easier would our life be if we would read the instructions right from the start?  How much stress and worry could be avoided?  Maybe some negative situations wouldn’t even occur at all.

All we need to do is read the directions that our Maker gave us. God doesn’t want us to stand on the side of road worrying about what is going to come barreling toward us and knock the breath out of us. He wants us to read the directions. Then, we can get off the shoulder and continue our journey toward something better.

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This is the crew who survived the flat tire fiasco. The daughter who saved the day (and the cost of a tow) is Kayla, the long-haired beauty sitting on the bench, second from the right.

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Jennifer lives in Madison, Mississippi with Pat, her wonderfully patient husband of 24 years and her two amazingly brilliant daughters, Tavyn and Kayla. She is the 7th grade principal at Madison Middle School and a die-hard LSU fan. But most importantly – she loves Jesus. 

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I live in a flood zone.

Recently my hometown of Monroe, Louisiana experienced devastating floods. It was heartbreaking to watch it unfold on the news and hear week after week that more rain inundated the area preventing standing water from draining. As flood waters began to rise, thousands were displaced as their homes took in anywhere from 20 to 60 inches of water. Hundreds of homes were underwater for nearly six weeks.

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As water levels began to recede, the clean-up started. Teams and crews tirelessly worked to empty salvageable homes, dumping carpet, cabinets, furniture and sheet rock at the curb. And as they cleaned out their homes, many found shocking surprises. Some found an alligator in their yard. Others discovered snakes hiding in showers, behind furniture, in the nooks and crannies of their garage and in cabinets – both high and low – tucked in pots and bowls.

So much wildlife had been displaced by flooding. Flood waters carried snakes and alligators into populated areas where they are not normally seen – like in houses – causing residents to rely on experts to help them remove the unwanted guest.

Insert “shudder” here. The only thing I hate more than broccoli is snakes.

As I thought about how horrible it is to stumble upon a snake – (I’ve been caught unaware by a snake on several occasions) – I realized what Truth this situation contains.

I realized I’m living in a flood zone. I have invited Abba to fill my life. As a result, He has begun to rain on me filling me with Himself. As His Presence fills my life to capacity, flooding every area with His glory, it begins to displace things in my life. And as a result, I begin to see things that I would not normally see. Things start to show up in attitudes, emotions and mind-sets where they had not previously been. Things I was once unaware of are now in plain site. His presence flooding my life is shifting things.

And what surfaces the most? Lies. Lies I believe about God. Lies about His character. Lies about His love. Lies about how God operates and interacts with humanity. Lies I believe about myself. Lies I believe about Christianity. Lies about church. His presence filling my life causes those lies to surface and become obvious.

The enemy also takes advantage of this flooding and tries to slip lies in about my experiences and encounters with Abba. Suggesting all types of lies about Abba’s voice, presence and movement in my life.

Now, lies are just like snakes and I hate them just as much. They slither in unnoticed and hide in unexpected places. And sometimes they look harmless. Like the insidious little coral snake that is indigenous to Louisiana. It’s small and very colorful. It doesn’t look  like your typical snake. Its bite at first seems anticlimactic. There is little pain or swelling – you may not even know you’ve been bitten. And symptoms of the bite can be delayed up to 12 hours. However, even though the bite seems uneventful, the neurotoxin is deadly. The venom causes disruption between the brain and muscles causing slurred speech, double vision, paralysis and eventually ending in respiratory or cardiac failure.

That’s exactly how lies operate. Very seldom do you realize you’ve been bitten by a lie. And you never realize you believe a lie. The effects of believing the lie are delayed. But given time, the deadly poison of the lie begins to spread and affects our speech, causing us to speak negatively and contrary to Truth. We can’t see clearly any longer because now we perceive reality through the lens of a lie. It paralyzes us, preventing us from taking action and rooting out the enemy. And eventually, a lie will lead to the death of Truth in that area of our life.

Louisiana Wildlife and Fisheries recommends residents who encounter snakes in their homes call an expert to remove them. This is suggested because removal can be dangerous. If you don’t know what you’re doing, things could go from bad to worse real fast. But an expert knows exactly how to approach the snake and safely remove it from the home.

The same is true for us. When we discover a lie, we really have no idea how to remove it. And seldom can we detect Truth by our self. If we try to remove a lie and establish truth our self, we fall into greater deception. We need the help of the Expert to root the lie out. John 16:13 (NLT) says When the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. Holy Spirit is the expert in removing lies. He removes the lie by revealing Truth. Truth is the anti-venom to the lie. Truth is the cure. Jesus said that when we know the Truth, it will set us free. (John 8:32) The word “know” in this passage means to have intimate knowledge of. Information that you’ve accepted, internalized and absorbed. When He reveals it – you must embrace it.

And as we allow Truth to course through our being, it removes the fogginess of the lies, bringing clarity to our thinking. Knowing Truth fills our mouth with Truth so that we speak positively. We begin to see correctly because now we view life through the lens of Truth. Truth empowers us to use our authority in Christ to aggressively trounce our enemy. Truth brings life, renewal and healing to every part of our existence.

And then He teaches us how to live according to Truth so that the lie no longer carries any influence in our life. He teaches us how to incorporate Truth into our life so that it becomes the basis of everything we are. He teaches us how to get comfortable with Truth, so that we recognize any other lie that tries to slither in.

If you’ve given Abba permission to fill you with Himself, you’re living in a flood zone too. And as He floods your life with Him, lies are going to surface. It’s inevitable. Expect it. Don’t be shocked by it. Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed that you believed a lie. It happens to ALL of us. When you encounter it, call on Holy Spirit, reject the lie and ask Him to implant Truth. And He will.

BTW: Coral snakes are reclusive and generally bite humans only when handled or stepped on. They must literally chew on their victim to inject their venom fully and often they give “dry” bites. This means not every bite delivers venom, so most bites to humans don’t result in death. To know if you’ve encountered a coral snake, remember this rhyme: “Red on yellow will kill a fellow. Red on black is a friend of Jack”. My rule of thumb: avoid them ALL. 000087279dcb44fb2fcd1be2848bf662

The devil gets a headache?!

I was scrolling through Facebook recently and saw this:

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Can I tell you how much I despise this meme? This saying? This thought – concept – idea?! I detest it because it’s a lie.

So let’s just clear this up right now. The enemy doesn’t care if you carry a Bible. That doesn’t affect him. Neither does opening it. And I can assure you he hasn’t fainted because you’re reading it. In fact, I’m pretty sure he’s very active when you’re reading the Bible; sitting right next to you, whispering lies, harassing you and working to distract you.

And while he hates to see you living in obedience to God’s Word, it will not make him flee. If that were true, we would never fight any battles, right? If that were true, then living in obedience to God’s Word would prevent the enemy from ever being able to get near you. If this saying is true, then you would never encounter the enemy when you live in obedience.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve found that some of the fiercest attacks come when I am living in obedience to God’s Word and following His directives for my life. I find that when I am living out the will of God and applying Truth to my life, the enemy comes at me full force.

So the saying on this meme just doesn’t make any sense. None of it has any scriptural basis to it. And the thought of the devil having a headache is just silly.

I’m pretty sure the enemy wrote this clever, little saying in an attempt to deceive us into thinking that carrying and opening the Bible would be enough to restrain him. Or that obedience is what it takes to evict him from our life.

The enemy’s purpose in this catchy tidbit is to cunningly influence our thinking. he wants us to question and accuse Abba for the difficulties we experience as we live obediently and never give him a second thought – because he should have fainted and been inactive long ago – right? And, as often as some of us read the Word of God, the enemy ought to stay perpetually woozy, moving in and out of a state of consciousness. So the complications, difficulties, frustrations, problems and chaos must be God – right? Because the enemy is out cold……

he drops these little, deceptive nuggets into our thoughts so that we never do what is actually needed to evict him and drive him away. So that we continue to adhere to an ineffective method of dealing with him. So that we never recognize his activity in our life. So that we assume that he has been dealt with.

And obviously he has succeeded because this witty saying has circled the globe because we have shared it. And we would never share anything we don’t believe or think is true. And what we believe or think is true shapes our actions and choices. How we think determines how we live.

The Truth is, two things must happen with consistency in order for the enemy to flee. And we find both of these things in James 4:7 (Amp) So submit to [the authority of] God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him] and he will flee from you.

  • Submission. The first step to evicting the enemy is to submit to God. We’ve got to live in humility. Living humbly means we recognize and acknowledge that we must have Him at the center of everything we are and everything we do. It means we are constantly looking to Abba for wisdom and direction. It’s knowing that we can’t do anything without Him.

Obedience is important – but let’s be real; sometimes our obedience is simply going through the motions. It’s only when we obey from a submissive and humble heart that an impact is made. It’s all about the position of our heart.

  • Resist. This means we actively push back against the enemy, standing firm in the position of Truth, refusing to be moved. In order for the enemy to flee, we have to fight back. It’s more than obedience, it’s aggression. he flees not because we passively live in obedience but because we aggressively address his activity in our circumstances.

And this aggressive behavior is done by speaking the Word – out loud. The enemy cannot read your thoughts. So if you’re going to evict him and drive him away, you’re going to need to pull out the Sword of the Spirit and use the authority of Jesus to address the enemy’s activity in your life. Speak verses that directly apply to your situation – relentlessly. Speak them with confidence and authority. As you do this, you’ll find the enemy cannot stay in the atmosphere you create and he will run. he can’t live in that environment. (Matthew 4:4)

So let’s reject this lie, change how we think and apply Truth. This will be the new meme:

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Why don’t you share this one and spread it around? As followers of Jesus, we’ll be much better equipped and successful if we live this way.

I think I’m going to start a new blog category “Can we stop saying that?!” and debunk all the silly, un-Scriptural things we as followers of Jesus say. Be on the look-out.

 

NOTE: When I write, I always use lower case letters for the enemy’s name and the pronouns referring to him.  I can’t bring myself to dignify his existence with a capital letter.

He’s stretching me!

I don’t like to be uncomfortable in any area of my life. I like things to be simple, smooth and easy. Uncomplicated. Painless. I like to be comfortable.

So you can imagine my unhappiness when I recently experienced some muscle issues that caused me to be uncomfortable. I felt very tight and sore – for no apparent reason. Not only was I uncomfortable, but my movement was limited in various ways.

So my friend Ali has been helping me work all this out. One of the things she instructed me to do was to stretch. I reported that I already stretch regularly and showed her what I was doing. I have to admit, I do those stretches quite well. I’ve been doing them a long time and am very good at them. She kindly pointed out that those stretches are not benefiting me – they were not stretching the muscles that need to be stretch. (insert big sigh here)

So she gave me some very specific stretches to do. They are stretching different muscles. And I don’t like it. I don’t want to do them. They are uncomfortable. They pull muscles that I didn’t know I had.

So I mentioned this to Ali and she confirmed that it will be uncomfortable but it’s needed. She said stretching these muscles would increase my range of motion and ability.  Stretching these muscles would enable me to do what I was currently unable to do.

And that’s when it hit me. I do the same thing spiritually. Because I don’t like to be uncomfortable, I stick with what I know. I stick with what I can do. I stick with what is easy. I stick to what is comfortable.  I don’t want to get outside my comfort zone because I don’t know what’s out there. I don’t know if I am able to do whatever it is outside my comfort zone.

But Abba started to show me that when He leads me outside my comfort zone it’s for the purpose of stretching me. He is increasing my capacity. He is making more space in me to encounter more of Him.  He is making room for more of His Presence.

He is creating more opportunities for me to rely on Him. He is deepening our relationship, showing me aspects of His faithfulness, love and grace that I have not seen before.  He is leading me to a deeper place where I can encounter more of His glory.

He is revealing to me those gifts and talents that I have yet to discover. He is showing me a new dimension to the gifts and talents I currently operate in. He is allowing me to experience Him in ways that are new to me.

And yes, He said it would be uncomfortable. It would be difficult. It may even be painful. He said I would need to listen more closely and learn how to become more sensitive to His Presence because this is new territory for me. But He promised that He would enable and empower me. He said “Don’t panic. I’m with you. There’s no need to fear for I’m your God. I’ll give you strength. I’ll help you. I’ll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on you.” (Isaiah 41:10) And He guaranteed me that it would be worth it. To experience more of Him would be more than worth any discomfort I experience.

So – gulp – I’m stepping out of my comfort zone into the great unknown. I’m going to let Him stretch me by leading me to places I’ve never been. I’m going to say yes to wherever He takes me. I’m going to trust that He is faithful to take care of me. While I don’t know what’s ahead, I am sure it’s good – because He is good. (Jeremiah 29:11)For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

ps – if you need a good physical therapist, call my friend Ali at Healing Hands Health and Wellness. She’s GREAT at this whole stretching thing. 810-387-2225 or 810-531-2096

My Box

I’ve often heard the phrase “Don’t put God in a box”. And recently I’ve been mulling that idea over and asking questions. Can I really put God in a box? Is that even possible? I understand the intent of the phrase: Don’t limit God. But is it actually possible to limit the limitless God?

As I’ve turned these thoughts over in my mind, I’ve developed a myriad of opinions. (yes, I’m known to have multiple opinions on the same subject) But this is the thought that is most prominent: by trying to put God in a box, I am really putting myself in the box. By trying to limit God, I am only limiting myself.

My attempts to put God in a box are based on my need for comfort, security and stability. In other words – I’m afraid. I fear stepping out into the unknown. I fear rejection. I fear uncertainty. I fear disappointment. I fear failure. I fear lack.

I feel the need to protect myself, so I create a safety zone. I set up boundaries that allow me to operate in what I am comfortable in. And within these boundaries I know how to live comfortably. I know what I am able to do. I know what I am able to handle. I know what works for me. I know what I can be successful in. And those are the things I stick with. I think I’ve made a pretty nice box.

As a result, I try to make God operate within the confines of my safety zone in hopes of staying comfortable. I set limits and declare that I will not go past that point because otherwise I may get uncomfortable. I don’t want to get out of my established boundaries because I may be hurt. Or embarrassed.

And as hard as I’ve tried, I just can’t get God to come into my box. I’ve explained my fears. I’ve conveyed my need for comfort, security and stability. I’ve told Him how I would like to keep everything status quo. But He refuses to climb in with me.

It’s not as though He isn’t listening, doesn’t care or doesn’t understand me. He totally gets me. And I think that’s why He is working to get me out of the box. He refuses to work within my boundaries because He wants to stretch me.

I think He purposely asks me to go places I haven’t been before in order to create dependence upon Him. I think He wants me to do things I have not done before so that I will lean on Him more. I think He leads me to things I am unequipped and untrained for so that I will have to draw totally from Him.

In other words – He’s stretching me in order to increase my capacity. He’s stretching me in order to make more room in my life for Him. When I step out of my box and walk with Him, I experience more of Him. I encounter Him in ways I never would have otherwise. I see aspects of Him that I would have missed had I stayed in the box.

My box limits my experience with God. My box limits my growth. My box limits my supernatural encounters. My box limits me.

I confess, it’s really uncomfortable. As I exit my box, fear is there to remind me of my inadequacies. My insecurities rise to the surface and threaten emotional chaos. But this is when I see Jesus, as He calms my fears and gently reassures me that I can do all things through Him because He is my strength. (Philippians 4:13) As He holds my hand and leads me into the great unknown, He whispers Don’t be afraid, for I AM with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I AM your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with My victorious hand. (Isaiah 41:10)

And as I trust in His promises, I experience His peace and I see things happen in and through me that I know could never have come from me.

I’m starting to feel cramped. So as comfy as my box is – I’m climbing out.

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There are no shades of grey

There’s a lot of buzz going on today about the release of the movie 50 Shades of Grey (2015)and now its sequel, 50 Shades Darker (2017). As a follower of Jesus, I certainly have an opinion on the movie(s) and the book that inspired it. I’ve also got one on pornography in general.

As I have read about the effects of pornography and counseled with those struggling with pornography issues, I have formed the following opinions:

  • there is overwhelming medical, scientific and sociological evidence detailing the destructive nature of pornography
  • porn is dangerously addictive – often after one experience
  • the effects of porn are “toxic” and produces the same effects of cocaine on the brain
  • porn desensitizes us to the natural gratification of pleasure and leads to sexual dysfunction
  • porn users/addicts have a higher risk of engaging in dangerous or unhealthy sexual activity with an increased risk of STDs
  • porn users/addicts tend to isolate themselves from family, friends and coworkers and develop antisocial behavior
  • porn users/addicts have a higher divorce rate
  • porn users/addicts have greater financial troubles
  • porn users/addicts have greater difficulties with school or work and experience job loss more often
  • porn produces excessive feelings of shame, guilt and condemnation
  • porn dehumanizes; reducing humans to sexual commodities that can be bought, sold, used and discarded
  • porn devalues all humans – particularly women
  • porn makes violence “sexy”
  • porn contributes to the world-wide problem of sex-trafficking and sex-slavery
  • porn takes our minds to places it should not go with people we are not married to

In my opinion, any form of porn (even soft) or viewing intimate encounters that were intended for the privacy of the marriage relationship or any form of sex that is made public is wrong. Even if they are “married” in the movie – they probably aren’t married in real life. And if they are – do I really want to see that? Do I need to see that?

But let’s be honest – what difference does my opinion make? Opinions are a dime a dozen. The only thought on this subject (or any subject) that matters is Abba’s thoughts. And His is the only one we should care about.

1John 2:16 (Amp) tells us the craving for sensual gratification and the greedy longing of our mind does not come from our Father but are products of the world. Jesus tells us in Matthew 5:28 that anyone who looks at a woman [or any human] with lust or desire has already committed adultery. And we know how Abba feels about adultery. Philippians 4:8 (Amp) tells us to fix our thoughts on those things that are honorable, pure, gracious, virtuous (moral and righteous – thoughts that are in right standing with God), and worthy of praise. Porn does not meet any of this Biblical criteria.

But, more important than the effect of porn on our mind, relationships, finances, the female gender or society is the impact it makes on our spirit – the everlasting part of our being. That part of us that will exist forever.

1Corinthians 6:9-11 tells us that those who commit adultery or indulge in sexual sin will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21 repeats this same warning. And Hebrews 12:14 tells us without holiness, we cannot see the Lord. Porn is not holy and it brings unholiness into our lives. Engaging in pornography equates adultery and is sexual sin.

I have to ask myself the questions: Does the short term thrill of a poorly written novel compare to the length of eternity? Is a sexy movie worth missing the Kingdom of God?

There are no grey areas in the pornography department. It’s very clear cut – black and white. Porn – reading, watching or engaging in – is sin. Sin opens the door to the enemy in our life. Sin separates us from the Presence of God. Sin keeps us from the Kingdom of God.


end note: please understand I am not passing judgment. I am however stating what the Bible says about sexual sins and lust. Those are His words – not mine.